I've always thought the name of "Father's Day" was incorrect. It really should be "Dad's Day" because anyone can 'father' a child but it really does take a special person to be a 'dad'. To be a father all you have to do is provide some sperm. The title of 'dad' is something you have to earn.
This is the first "Dad's Day" without my dad. (Thank you, I'm doing fine.) Pops (as EVERYONE called him) did not earn the title of 'dad' until I was about 14 or 15 years old. Growing up, he wasn't necessarily a good person to live with. He could be abusive at times and his discipline was extreme to say the least. I was actually the lucky one of us three boys. My two older brothers had it ALOT worse than I did. As a matter of fact, it wasn't until me and my wife were together for a few years when she was talking about her childhood, that all of a sudden, I realized that my childhood F*#kin Sucked. I had always compared my childhood to that of my brothers and compared to theirs, mine was pretty darn good. Once I compared my childhood to that of my wife's, I realized what my childhood was like. My wife's childhood wasn't anything spectacular. It was a pretty normal childhood (what ever 'normal' is in this world of the abnormal).
I could go into why I think my childhood "F*#kin Sucked" but there is no need to do so. It may not have been a good childhood but it truly did help make me the man and dad I am today. Most men become the person they are by learning what to do from their dads but at least one of my brothers and I learned what not to do from our dad. (I say 'at least one of my brothers' because my oldest brother didn't 'fall far from the tree' as far as being a father.)
I've got a couple of great kids and I believe my I'm a pretty good dad. I believe the reason I'm a good dad is because I looked at all the things I believed Pops did wrong and do my best not to make the same mistakes. Now, before you start thinking I'm one of these "time out" parents, I am not. I do believe in the saying "spare the rod, spoil the child" but it is just I don't actually use a rod. I do discipline my kids. I do use 'time outs' but I also have lit my kids up on occasions as well. (Before you go calling children's services on me, don't waste your time. Spanking a kid and beating a kid are two different things.)
People want to wonder why we have the problems today such as school shootings, etc. I do believe the problem is that we have way too many parents that are either one extreme or the other. Either they discipline their kids by beating them (spanking a kid is not beating a kid) or they are the extreme 'time out' parents. Heck, some parents don't even do 'time outs'. I won't even get into the prayer and religion (or the lack there of). Some parents are more worried about being 'friends'. My kids may not always like what I say but I believe they not only respect me, but they love me as well.
I truly loved Pops and as he got older he became one of the best people anyone could have hoped to have known. And most people did like him when I was growing up but they didn't see how he treated us boys.
Just so you know, Pops and I talked about all of these things before he died. We did not wait until his last days to discuss this. We discussed it several times over the years. Too many people end up regretting what they never got to say while their parents were alive. (Check out Mike and the Mechanics -- "The Living Years")
OK...I've rambled on long enough...Heck, I'm not even sure if all of this even makes any sense but hopefully it does.
I want to wish all of the dads out there a Happy Dad's Day. And to all the "fathers" out there, it is time to step up and earn the title of dad. -TT
PS - I also hate the term "Deadbeat Dad" because a deadbeat dad isn't a "dad" at all. It should be "Deadbeat Father".
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[Permalink] [Comments - 2] [Send Article] [Improper]Made in the USA: Spoiled Brats by Craig R. Smith

Craig R. Smith
The following essay was written by Craig R. Smith. I do not know anything about him and honestly I don't care who he is or what his beliefs are but this essay really does say a lot.
A version of his essay has been floating around in e-mails stating it was written by Jay Leno. I was able to find out who actually wrote it over at Snopes.com.
I found the essay here
Whether you agree with the essay or not, all I care is that it makes you think.
Made in the USA: Spoiled brats
Posted: November 20, 2006
1:00 am Eastern
By Craig R. Smith
The other day I was reading Newsweek magazine and came across some poll data I found rather hard to believe. It must be true given the source, right? The same magazine that employs Michael (Qurans in the toilets at Gitmo) Isikoff. Here I promised myself this week I would be nice and I start off in this way. Oh what a mean man I am.
The Newsweek poll alleges that 67 percent of Americans are unhappy with the direction the country is headed and 69 percent of the country is unhappy with the performance of the president. In essence 2/3s of the citizenry just ain't happy and want a change.
So being the knuckle dragger I am, I starting thinking, "What we are so unhappy about?"
Is it that we have electricity and running water 24 hours a day, 7 days a week? Is our unhappiness the result of having air conditioning in the summer and heating in the winter? Could it be that 95.4 percent of these unhappy folks have a job? Maybe it is the ability to walk into a grocery store at any time and see more food in moments than Darfur has seen in the last year?
Maybe it is the ability to drive from the Pacific Ocean to the Atlantic Ocean without having to present identification papers as we move through each state? Or possibly the hundreds of clean and safe motels we would find along the way that can provide temporary shelter? I guess having thousands of restaurants with varying cuisine from around the world is just not good enough. Or could it be that when we wreck our car, emergency workers show up and provide services to help all involved. Whether you are rich or poor they treat your wounds and even, if necessary, send a helicopter to take you to the hospital.
Perhaps you are one of the 70 percent of Americans who own a home, you may be upset with knowing that in the unfortunate case of having a fire, a group of trained firefighters will appear in moments and use top notch equipment to extinguish the flames thus saving you, your family and your belongings. Or if, while at home watching one of your many flat screen TVs, a burglar or prowler intrudes; an officer equipped with a gun and a bullet-proof vest will come to defend you and your family against attack or loss. This all in the backdrop of a neighborhood free of bombs or militias raping and pillaging the residents. Neighborhoods where 90 percent of teenagers own cell phones and computers.
How about the complete religious, social and political freedoms we enjoy that are the envy of everyone in the world? Maybe that is what has 67 percent of you folks unhappy.
Fact is, we are the largest group of ungrateful, spoiled brats the world has ever seen. No wonder the world loves the U.S. yet has a great disdain for its citizens. They see us for what we are. The most blessed people in the world who do nothing but complain about what we don't have and what we hate about the country instead of thanking the good Lord we live here.
I know, I know. What about the president who took us into war and has no plan to get us out? The president who has a measly 31 percent approval rating? Is this the same president who guided the nation in the dark days after 9/11? The president that cut taxes to bring an economy out of recession? Could this be the same guy who has been called every name in the book for succeeding in keeping all the spoiled brats safe from terrorist attacks? The commander in chief of an all-volunteer army that is out there defending you and me?
Make no mistake about it. The troops in Iraq and Afghanistan have volunteered to serve, and in many cases have died for your freedom. There is currently no draft in this country. They didn't have to go. They are able to refuse to go and end up with either a "general" discharge, an "other than honorable" discharge or, worst case scenario, a "dishonorable" discharge after a few days in the brig.
So why then the flat out discontentment in the minds of 69 percent of Americans? Say what you want but I blame it on the media. If it bleeds it leads and they specialize in bad news. Everybody will watch a car crash with blood and guts. How many will watch kids selling lemonade at the corner? The media knows this and media outlets are for-profit corporations. They offer what sells. Just ask why they are going to allow a murderer like O.J. Simpson to write a book and do a TV special about how he didn't kill his wife but if he did … insane!
Stop buying the negative venom you are fed everyday by the media. Shut off the TV, burn Newsweek, and use the New York Times for the bottom of your bird cage. Then start being grateful for all we have as a country. There is exponentially more good than bad.
I close with one of my favorite quotes from B.C. Forbes in 1953:
"What have Americans to be thankful for? More than any other people on the earth, we enjoy complete religious freedom, political freedom, social freedom. Our liberties are sacredly safeguarded by the Constitution of the United States, 'the most wonderful work ever struck off at a given time by the brain and purpose of man.' Yes, we Americans of today have been bequeathed a noble heritage. Let us pray that we may hand it down unsullied to our children and theirs."
I suggest this Thanksgiving we sit back and count our blessings for all we have. If we don't, what we have will be taken away. Then we will have to explain to future generations why we squandered such blessing and abundance. If we are not careful this generation will be known as the "greediest and most ungrateful generation." A far cry from the proud Americans of the "greatest generation" who left us an untarnished legacy.
Posted: November 20, 2006
1:00 am Eastern
By Craig R. Smith
The other day I was reading Newsweek magazine and came across some poll data I found rather hard to believe. It must be true given the source, right? The same magazine that employs Michael (Qurans in the toilets at Gitmo) Isikoff. Here I promised myself this week I would be nice and I start off in this way. Oh what a mean man I am.
The Newsweek poll alleges that 67 percent of Americans are unhappy with the direction the country is headed and 69 percent of the country is unhappy with the performance of the president. In essence 2/3s of the citizenry just ain't happy and want a change.
So being the knuckle dragger I am, I starting thinking, "What we are so unhappy about?"
Is it that we have electricity and running water 24 hours a day, 7 days a week? Is our unhappiness the result of having air conditioning in the summer and heating in the winter? Could it be that 95.4 percent of these unhappy folks have a job? Maybe it is the ability to walk into a grocery store at any time and see more food in moments than Darfur has seen in the last year?
Maybe it is the ability to drive from the Pacific Ocean to the Atlantic Ocean without having to present identification papers as we move through each state? Or possibly the hundreds of clean and safe motels we would find along the way that can provide temporary shelter? I guess having thousands of restaurants with varying cuisine from around the world is just not good enough. Or could it be that when we wreck our car, emergency workers show up and provide services to help all involved. Whether you are rich or poor they treat your wounds and even, if necessary, send a helicopter to take you to the hospital.
Perhaps you are one of the 70 percent of Americans who own a home, you may be upset with knowing that in the unfortunate case of having a fire, a group of trained firefighters will appear in moments and use top notch equipment to extinguish the flames thus saving you, your family and your belongings. Or if, while at home watching one of your many flat screen TVs, a burglar or prowler intrudes; an officer equipped with a gun and a bullet-proof vest will come to defend you and your family against attack or loss. This all in the backdrop of a neighborhood free of bombs or militias raping and pillaging the residents. Neighborhoods where 90 percent of teenagers own cell phones and computers.
How about the complete religious, social and political freedoms we enjoy that are the envy of everyone in the world? Maybe that is what has 67 percent of you folks unhappy.
Fact is, we are the largest group of ungrateful, spoiled brats the world has ever seen. No wonder the world loves the U.S. yet has a great disdain for its citizens. They see us for what we are. The most blessed people in the world who do nothing but complain about what we don't have and what we hate about the country instead of thanking the good Lord we live here.
I know, I know. What about the president who took us into war and has no plan to get us out? The president who has a measly 31 percent approval rating? Is this the same president who guided the nation in the dark days after 9/11? The president that cut taxes to bring an economy out of recession? Could this be the same guy who has been called every name in the book for succeeding in keeping all the spoiled brats safe from terrorist attacks? The commander in chief of an all-volunteer army that is out there defending you and me?
Make no mistake about it. The troops in Iraq and Afghanistan have volunteered to serve, and in many cases have died for your freedom. There is currently no draft in this country. They didn't have to go. They are able to refuse to go and end up with either a "general" discharge, an "other than honorable" discharge or, worst case scenario, a "dishonorable" discharge after a few days in the brig.
So why then the flat out discontentment in the minds of 69 percent of Americans? Say what you want but I blame it on the media. If it bleeds it leads and they specialize in bad news. Everybody will watch a car crash with blood and guts. How many will watch kids selling lemonade at the corner? The media knows this and media outlets are for-profit corporations. They offer what sells. Just ask why they are going to allow a murderer like O.J. Simpson to write a book and do a TV special about how he didn't kill his wife but if he did … insane!
Stop buying the negative venom you are fed everyday by the media. Shut off the TV, burn Newsweek, and use the New York Times for the bottom of your bird cage. Then start being grateful for all we have as a country. There is exponentially more good than bad.
I close with one of my favorite quotes from B.C. Forbes in 1953:
"What have Americans to be thankful for? More than any other people on the earth, we enjoy complete religious freedom, political freedom, social freedom. Our liberties are sacredly safeguarded by the Constitution of the United States, 'the most wonderful work ever struck off at a given time by the brain and purpose of man.' Yes, we Americans of today have been bequeathed a noble heritage. Let us pray that we may hand it down unsullied to our children and theirs."
I suggest this Thanksgiving we sit back and count our blessings for all we have. If we don't, what we have will be taken away. Then we will have to explain to future generations why we squandered such blessing and abundance. If we are not careful this generation will be known as the "greediest and most ungrateful generation." A far cry from the proud Americans of the "greatest generation" who left us an untarnished legacy.
I will be the first to admit that I complain WAY too much and that I don't like President Bush, but this essay (even if it is a couple years old) has really made me think and I hope it has made you think a little as well. You don't have to agree with it but I hope you will think about and discuss it with others.
God Bless The USA!!!!!!!!!!!

"I pledge allegiance to the flag of the United States of America, and to the Republic for which it stands, one Nation under God, indivisible, with liberty and justice for all."

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Posted on Fri, Jun 06 2008 @ 11:11 PM [EST]
[Permalink] [Comments - 4] [Send Article] [Improper]Truckers Beware ... In Ohio (Roadcheck 2008 Begins Tuesday)
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Roadcheck 2008 Begins Tuesday
Last Update: 6/02 10:34 am
Reported by: Hagit Limor
Web produced by: Ian Preuth
If you drive a commercial vehicle, watch out for the Ohio State Patrol. Tuesday through Thursday this week, it’s going to conduct its Roadcheck 2008, 72 hours of continuous commercial vehicle inspections.
“Although certified safety inspectors perform this work every day on Ohio roads, Roadcheck places a special emphasis on commercial vehicle and driver safety issues,” according to Colonel Richard H. Collins, superintendent of the Patrol. He said troopers will be including safety belt compliance, all in the effort to save lives on Ohio highways.
Not only will troopers man at least 20 inspection sites along major Ohio highways, but Collins said roving patrols will inspect vehicles and drivers traveling other highways. And it’s not just trucks, but other passenger carrying vehicles, including charter buses.
Last year, troopers and motor carrier enforcement inspectors conducted 2,025 inspections in Roadcheck 2007. They issued 4,740 safety violations on Ohio roadways, and of those inspections, 564 commercial vehicles and 109 drivers were placed out of service for various violations.
Copyright 2008 The E.W. Scripps Co. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten, or redistributed.
Last Update: 6/02 10:34 am
Reported by: Hagit Limor
Web produced by: Ian Preuth
If you drive a commercial vehicle, watch out for the Ohio State Patrol. Tuesday through Thursday this week, it’s going to conduct its Roadcheck 2008, 72 hours of continuous commercial vehicle inspections.
“Although certified safety inspectors perform this work every day on Ohio roads, Roadcheck places a special emphasis on commercial vehicle and driver safety issues,” according to Colonel Richard H. Collins, superintendent of the Patrol. He said troopers will be including safety belt compliance, all in the effort to save lives on Ohio highways.
Not only will troopers man at least 20 inspection sites along major Ohio highways, but Collins said roving patrols will inspect vehicles and drivers traveling other highways. And it’s not just trucks, but other passenger carrying vehicles, including charter buses.
Last year, troopers and motor carrier enforcement inspectors conducted 2,025 inspections in Roadcheck 2007. They issued 4,740 safety violations on Ohio roadways, and of those inspections, 564 commercial vehicles and 109 drivers were placed out of service for various violations.
Copyright 2008 The E.W. Scripps Co. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten, or redistributed.
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Posted on Tue, Jun 03 2008 @ 11:43 PM [EST]
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