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Ph.d. Gregory Bodenhamer

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Explanations > Trust > Effects of betrayal
Distress | Loss of trust | Restorative justice | Retributive justice | So what?
Distress
The most immediate effect of the betrayal of trust is in the emotional impact on
the person betrayed. Generally speaking, the greater the trust that you had put
in the other person and the greater the impact their betrayal has on you, then
the greater the distress you will feel.
A number of different emotions may be felt upon realizing you have been
betrayed. The most common is anger although, depending on the situation, you
might the fear of loss of the relationship and repulsion at the lack of integrity of
the other person.
Loss of trust
When you are betrayed by someone, it is highly likely that you will not easily
trust them again. Trust is fragile and can be lost instantly or there is a hysterisis
whereby a long-earned trust may be eroded and then suddenly lost.
Restorative justice
The first thing that the betrayed person may seek from the betrayer is some
form of restitution.
The simplest form of restitution is a straightforward apology. Restoration means
putting things back as they were, so it may include some act of contrition to
demonstrate one is truly sorry. This may include action and even extra payment
to the offended party.
Retributive justice
Restoration may well not be enough for the betrayed person and they may seek
revenge of some sort, whereby they can feel the satisfaction of seeing the other
person suffer in the way that they have suffered.
Revenge can be many times more severe than reparation as the hurt party seeks
to make the other person suffer in return.
So what?
So don't get into these situations!! If you betray someone, it is often best to
come clean. Accept responsibility for personal failure and personally apologize.
Demonstrate how you will fix process failure, and offer compensation.
The alternatives to these recovery actions may cost you much more.
Note: A small betrayal can, in fact, actually help. The way it works is that you fail
in a relatively unimportant way, then go overboard in recovery. The message
sent is 'we care so much about you even for the small things (so just imagine
how much we care about the bigger things)'. Done well, it can actually increase
loyalty.

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