Creating the Trust of Truck Drivers PeopleNology

Emotionally you have allowed me
to lay a hand on your heart and mind.

PeopleNology by Ph.D. Gregory Bodenhamer Nollijy UniversityYour trust of me is both emotional and logical act. You have uncovered and exposed your
vulnerabilities to me because you have an expectation of trust. Even though you still safeguard
your true feelings your starting to consider and accept as true that I will never take advantage of
your openness. I have put in the picture things about me that no other person would ever know.
I have given you a degree of power over me that only a secret can hold. Logically you have
also assessed the probabilities of some gain or loss of our new relationship. You’re trying to
calculate some future expectation against the hard information you now have available. You
persistently try to decide if I will behave in some predictable manner that is acceptable. I trust
you because I have experienced your trustworthiness and because I have faith in you and accept
as true that you’re an exceptional friend. We now own something together, only the two of us.
You’re starting to essentially feel the trust between us already. Emotions associated
with trust you already know something about. A cup of coffee in the morning at work includes
companionship, friendship, agreement, relaxation and comfort. You feel the trust between us
even though trust has many dimensions and definitions. Sitting in a rocking chair while talking
calls to your mind these same emotions and feelings. The next time we sit on the porch
together you have the comfort and trust of predictability. The lack of variation or trust we have
will expand and increase again. Your entire life is spent on trying to predict the future,
forecasting the next moment in time. You trust predictability so you trust me based on your own
internal models of education, experiences and emotions. With me you don’t have to guess what
happens next. You slowly and cautiously abandon your guarding and stop looking for threats
and start making plans for our longer term relationship. As you learn that you can trust me you
let go of old ideas and experiences as they do not apply to us. You let go of the past and grasp
for the future. Trust means being able to predict what we will do and what situations will occur.
If you surround yourself with people you trust, then you can create a safe present and a better
future. You and I are exchanging values with each other even though we do not know fully
whether what we are receiving is what we expect. We are trusting the exchange has value in
the future. I can give you what you may need when you may want it because I am your friend
for life. Trust means giving something now with an expectation that it will be repaid, possibly in
some unspecified way at some unspecified time in the future.
Trust means enabling other people to take advantage of your vulnerabilities—but expecting
that they will not do this. Telling you knowledge about myself also gives you the responsibility of
knowing another person. You can see why honest trust always turns into honest affections. You
have persuaded me to trust you by me trusting you first. You have allowed me to lay my hand
on your heart and change your mind about many things. You have a new and greater position in
life today, you have a friend and found that others love you without obligations.
Gregory Bodenhamer

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